If you're exhausted from fighting frustrating habits and losing the battle, you're in the right place. I've been there – and I discovered a better way.
Know this: You're not broken. These habits are just coping tools your nervous system created to help you survive. Together, we can find strategies that work with your brain instead of against it.
TL, DR:
Hello, my name is Laura, and I help people with ADHD overcome frustrating habits–like procrastination, hair pulling, skin picking, and stress eating–so they can drop the shame and reclaim their energy, time, and confidence.
The Long Version:
I see you:
Desperately wanting to stop, but going back to your habit over and over
Fed up with the frustration, embarrassment, and shame – but not knowing how to break free
Battling burnout and overwhelm, with no energy left to fight the urges
Constantly worried that if others really knew your struggle, they'd judge you or think you were crazy
This doesn't have to be your story.
You don't have to keep struggling like this. You can set down the shame, the secrecy, and the exhaustion of fighting your urges or patterns every day.
I know it feels impossible right now. I know you've tried so many things and nothing has worked. I know you're worried that you aren’t capable of change.
But I also know this: You're not broken. It is possible. And you are more capable than you realize.
You just need someone who’s walked this path before you—and knows how to help you get to the root of it.
My purpose is to help others like you break free from this cycle—so that you don't have to spend decades struggling in shame and secrecy like I did.
My StoryI lived a life that looked great from the outside, but felt crushing on the inside.
Happy marriage. Healthy kids. Successful career in healthcare.
But the truth? I was drowning.
I was overwhelmed, constantly trying to be everything to everyone, and pulling out my hair day after day. I felt like something was fundamentally wrong with me.
(Turns out, undiagnosed ADHD was part of the picture.)
Once upon a time…
For 20 years, I told friends and family that my bald spots were caused by a medical condition.
I couldn’t bring myself to admit that I was causing the damage. What would they think? How would I explain something I didn’t even understand myself?
Finally, I worked up the courage to tell someone and it was like opening Pandora’s box. I gradually opened up to more and more people and the shame started to melt away.
I was ready to conquer this thing called “trichotillomania,” which I learned was a type of body-focused repetitive behaviors (BFRB) along with skin picking and nail biting.
My big secret
I read books. I attended BFRB conferences and a retreat. I took a mindfulness class for BFRBs. Now a physician assistant in psychiatry, I got certified to treat others with BFRBs.
I armed myself with knowledge and collected an enormous list of strategies and tools. I did what the experts recommended, with hopes that I could finally quit.
But I didn’t quit. At least not consistently…
which magnified my shame because now I knew what I was "supposed to do" to stop—but I kept pulling anyway.
And this wasn't just me; I knew other therapists and mental health clinicians who treated BFRBs but were still struggling to manage their own.
And I wondered – what are we missing? If the people trained to treat this can't find relief, there has to be another piece of the puzzle.
Doing everything “right”
Then everything clicked.
The strategies weren't failing because they were wrong—or because I was doing them wrong.
They were failing because they were missing the foundation: addressing the underlying nervous system dysregulation.
I also learned that when we resist the parts of ourselves we don't like (like “bad” habits), it just adds to the tension these behaviors are trying to relieve… which means beating ourselves up for it actually intensifies the behaviors because it gives them more soothing work to do.
Finding the missing piece
When I started listening to my body, addressing the dysregulation, and treating myself with compassion instead of criticism—everything changed.
I'm no longer consumed by my hair pulling or the shame I carried for over 25 years. I practice strategies that actually work with my ADHD brain, and I release what doesn't serve me.
I’m not entirely “pull-free” now—nor do I aspire to be. But when urges show up, I know how to respond with curiosity, acceptance, and self-compassion. And this empowers me to choose how I want to cope instead of my hands choosing for me.
And that's exactly what I help my clients do.
A new beginning
If you take nothing else from this page, take this:
These behaviors aren't character flaws or lack of willpower. They're your brain and body's attempt to regulate stress and discomfort. When our nervous system is constantly dysregulated, our brain searches for ways to soothe us—and it latches onto whatever works, even if it comes with consequences.
Which means the common treatment strategies alone will never be enough if you don’t also address the underlying dysregulation.
They might help you manage urges temporarily, but you'll keep fighting the same battle until you get to the root cause, which requires building awareness, regulation, and compassion.
What really matters
qualifiedWhat makes me
to help you?
But here's what makes me different:
I've also lived it.
I have nearly 30 years of personal experience with trichotillomania and even longer with ADHD.
I've spent years digging deeper than the surface-level strategies most experts offer—searching for an approach that wouldn't exhaust me for the rest of my life. What I discovered goes far beyond quick fixes: I teach incredibly meaningful life skills that create lasting change.
I bring something most coaches and therapists can't:
both sides of the story.
I've worked in behavioral health as a PA-C since 2017. I've coached hundreds of clients as a mental health clinician, so I understand what truly motivates people and what creates lasting change.
That combination—clinical expertise and lived experience—means I can meet you exactly where you are.
I hold an entirely judgment-free space and teach radical self-acceptance, which leads to deep healing–
and I want to share that with you.
Master's degree in physician assistant studies
8+ years in psychiatry/behavioral health
I use a mix of cognitive behavioral strategies, acceptance and commitment concepts, ADHD tools, parts work, and more
Personal lived experience with ADHD and trichotillomania
My experience includes:
I believe everyone is doing the best they can with the tools they have. If your current coping tools (i.e., "bad" habits) aren't serving you, it's not a reflection of your capabilities – you just need better tools.
And I can teach you those tools.
My philosophy is simple:
Change is possible for you. Not someday. Not after you "fix" yourself. Right now, exactly as you are.
You can break free from the shame and the cycle. You can learn to regulate without relying on habits that carry a heavy burden.
You can reclaim your energy, your confidence, and your peace of mind.
It's time to step into your power.
Let's do this together!
At 40+, I’m living my best hair life with wigs
I have over 100 houseplants (not including propagations)
I’m living proof that someone with ADHD can be successf– wait, what was I saying?
I have a girl-crush on Adriene Mishler (Yoga with Adriene on YouTube)
As a divorce present to myself, I got a tattoo of a Chinese character that translates to “real me”
A few more things about me…
If all of this (or what you skimmed on your way here) sounds like what you need in your life, let’s get started!
I can't wait to see your progress!
Yay, you made it to the end!
Laura is a habit coach specializing in helping people with ADHD overcome frustrating habits like procrastination, hair pulling, skin picking, and stress eating.
Through her signature 12-week coaching program, Hack Your Habit, Laura helps clients understand the underlying dysregulation driving their behaviors, build personalized regulation toolkits, and break free from shame and frustration.
With a master's degree in physician assistant studies and 7+ years of experience in psychiatry and behavioral health, Laura brings both clinical expertise and lived experience to her work. She personally struggled with trichotillomania for over 25 years before discovering the regulation-based approach that finally created lasting change.
Laura's mission is simple: help people work with their brains instead of against them, so they can reclaim their energy, time, and confidence.
She can be contacted at laura@hopeandhealingcoach.com
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